How To: Prostate Massage
By Carnal Queen.
Prostate massage is a beautiful thing. Thankfully, the stigma and outdated stupid attitudes towards it seem to be becoming a thing of the past. More and more guys are experimenting with their backsides, in a quest to find a new level of pleasure. The good news is, they’re totally looking in the right place!
So, what’s the prostate? The prostate is a small gland, situated below the bladder and in front of the rectum. It’s about the size and shape of a walnut and it’s part of the male reproductive system, which is why it feels so damn good when you stimulate it! It’s job is to produce a large part of the semen, which is the fluid ship that sperm uses to hitchhike it’s way out of a man. It’s sometimes known as the male G-Spot or P-Spot, and is a huge hub of pleasure.
Prostate massage is also a really good thing to do for a man’s health. The prostate stores semen, and over time it becomes stagnant – nice thought huh? It can contain not-so-friendly bacteria and cause swelling, a good massage causes the prostate to release the build up, effectively giving your prostate a cleanse. The health benefits associated with regular prostate massage are quite remarkable. It increases seminal fluid and circulation, helps erectile function, reduces the risk of prostate cancer and also reduces the need for frequent night-time toilet trips to pee. Food for thought isn’t it!
If you’re just thinking of trying prostate massage for the first time, it’s understandable that you’re going to have a few reservations and concerns. Will it hurt? Will it be pleasurable? Am I gonna get covered in poop? To be honest, I’d be surprised if you weren’t thinking along those lines. It’s natural, you wan’t to be prepared, mentally as well as physically. So, where should you start?
Finger play is generally a good introduction. You have more control with your own body parts, because you can feel what they’re doing, unlike a toy, which you might just be stabbing around in the dark, literally. It’s important to remember to maintain a clean routine for anal play of any kind. The tissues inside the back passage are much thinner than those inside the vagina for example, which is why infections and the like are transmitted much more easily here. Everything that goes near your butt needs to be clean! Wearing gloves is a great option, because they can just be disposed of when you’re done. And I bet you were just worried about the cleanliness of your poo shoot …
That brings me on to the subject of your ass nicely. Your anal passage is relatively short, and because it’s used as an exit, it only really has waste in it, as your body prepares for a bowel movement. So as long as you’ve been to the toilet a little while before exploring that area, you’ll generally find it to be mess free. That said, if the use of an anal douche will help relax you, and put poopy nightmares to bed, then it’s absolutely fine to do. It’s a personal choice.
Right, now to get down and (not so) dirty. You’ll need generous helpings of an anal lube before you begin. Specific lube used for anal play is thicker than ordinary lubes, so it’s much better suited to the job. It’s essential, because your anus is not self-lubricating, so going in dry would be a disaster, and an experience that you’d never want to repeat! Popping a towel down is a good idea too, to clean off any excess lube if nothing else. Sure, you can explore your prostate yourself, but it’s going to be easier for a partner to access. Make sure the fingers are covered in a generous helping of lube, as well as your anal entrance, before you begin.
Lying on your back, with your legs open and your hips slightly raised, is probably the easiest way to approach it to begin with. You need to be as relaxed as possible, which I know is easier said than done when your partner is hovering over you, about to sink things into places that have gone unexplored previously. Oral sex can be really helpful here. You’ll be aroused and relaxed, you’ll get some glorious head, and moving forward to the prostate will be easier to do. Win-Win!
They shouldn’t just poke around without a care. Gentle external stimulation of the area will help you to appreciate the pleasant feelings you’re experiencing. The aim is to tease and caress your butt until your body starts to give under their touch slightly. They’re not trying to puncture the plastic on an air-tight packet! Nice and easy does it. When they do slowly begin to penetrate you with a single finger, small in-out, shallow movements will help you to deal with the new invasion, before they gently start to go deeper each time. Once you’re comfortable with one finger, the process can be repeated with two, before the hunt for pleasureville starts. The prostate is located on the front wall, between the anal cavity and the penis, 3 to 4 inches in. So aim towards the belly button with your fingers, to get you into the right area. It’s a small patch, which will feel immediately different to the rest of the internal walls.
Go easy! No seriously, the prostate is a very sensitive gland, and over stimulation from the word go will likely be too much and have you running for the hills. A gentle come hither motion with two fingers works best, and as you become accustomed to the sensation, and you become more aroused, more pressure can gradually be applied.
You may find you’re oozing seminal fluid by now. Some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone, others will find it makes their orgasms more explosive and mind blowing. Go with the flow, if it feels good and you want to continue, then do it! Perhaps add some cock stroking or more oral loveliness to the mix. Top up with lube as and when you need to!
Got a taste for it now? Perhaps you want to invest in something to allow you to access your prostate when you’re alone or something to wear during sex. There are many options to explore, like butt plugs, or specific prostate massagers. Take a look at the different shapes and sizes available, and try anything you think may work for you, that’s made from a body safe material. Avoid anything that’s porous, like TPR/TPE, jelly or PVC, and go for silicone, metal or ABS plastic.
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